This was an excellent article I came across the other day. I agree very much with the concept, and definitely wanted to share (…because sharing great content is an awesome tactic when your week has been crazy!)
Here’s why: This philosophy of parenting is consistent with the non-aggression principle, which is a morally sound principle regardless of your status as a parent, a citizen, a soldier, a state, etc. This philosophy of parenting also recognizes that children are human too, and respects the dignity of the child (if this phrase makes you snort, just bear with me and read the article! It might make some sense!).
Excerpt: “Spanking, time-out, yelling or raging, and the levying of punishments — conventional discipline — are all reactionary behaviors. Reactionary parents believe that acting this way is okay — even if they’re not necessarily proud of it — because it let’s the child “know who’s boss.” It’s a muscle-flexing, primitive, power-based display.
While it does communicate power, it also communicates that the parent is triggered and out of control, two states that are antithetical to influence. It also let’s children know that violence, isolation, and coercion are legitimate tactics when you’re upset or when you want your way, especially if the other person is smaller and weaker.
It’s also a sign that the child has gained a unique power over the parent. If your child’s behavior can trigger emotional outbursts in you, then the ship you’re both on is without a captain for the time being.”